Posts by Sail Away

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When You See A JW Approaching What Are Your Thoughts?

by minimus in

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i used to get a weird feeling in my stomach when i would see a witness approaching.... almost a sense of dread.

now, i really don’t care.

i have even made it a point to do the approaching when i see a witness trying to convert an ignorant person..

Sail Away

I smile and exchange pleasantries with those I know. It happened again last week. I visited with four JWs, including one who was a MS last I knew, at a local pizza parlor. This after being out 7 years. A clean break. I just walked away. Doctrine doesn't come up. I have been told that I am seen as "stumbled". If that were so, there would be good cause for the rumor. Clearly, they did not announce my name from the platform when I resigned.

That said, when I see cart witnessing, a JW.bOrg sign on a KH or any Christian icon or image, for that matter; it triggers my PTSD. It happened again yesterday. My husband had surgery at a local hospital that has stained glass windows with images of the Christ and crucifixes throughout the building. It totally freaked me out. Images and symbols from other religions do not have this effect. I have felt both pity and rage seeing JWs going door to door. It is so unsettling.

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Circuit Overseer Meets with Elders and Ministerial Servants

by accesible in

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¿necesitan los demás bosquejos?.

https://drive.google.com/open?id=1dvhuodkcahf6efu2xqxfk6o8ambqe5rm.

Sail Away

The accusation may, or may not, meet the Scriptural definition of drunkenness. Legal blood-alcohol limits vary depending on local laws and do not necessarily establish that a person was Biblically drunk.

"Biblically drunk"?

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suicide

by zeb in

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who among us has known a jw who has committed suicide.

i believe this as a separate subject has not been covered..

Sail Away

Two suicides-- one a mentally impaired young man who said good-bye to everyone and gave away his most prized possessions at the meeting earlier that night. If the elders actually had some training, they could have seen the signs. The second, the shunned son of an elder and his pioneer mother, parked in his car in front of their home. He left a note saying he couldn't bare to knock on the door and be sent away again. When the mother died of cancer many years later, they didn't even mention that she had two sons, only a "sister that was like a daughter to her." The bastards deleted them from her life.

One probable suicide-- a young man on his motorcycle the night it was announced that he was DF'd.

Two attempts-- one a recently divorced DF'd elder, shunned by his P.O. father and cold-hearted elderette mother (daughter of an "annointed" colporter). She literally said to me that her son "didn't deserve to be in paradise". The second, my own son, but thankfully, I found him in time. I walked away a year later when they DF'd him for not getting his act together soon enough. I wasn't about to kick him to the curb and shun him.

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Mea culpa..

by zeb in

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just a few hours ago i took my wife (uber) to the hall with eats she had prepared as the cong are doing some work there.

i had not set foot onto the kh property in years and my stomach went into a knot as i did.

well what happened?

Sail Away

Zeb, so many are finding freedom because of the ARC and your courageous efforts.

May you find comfort and peace during this difficult time. ⚘⚘⚘

Diane

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The laziness of JW parents....

by stuckinarut2 in

it struck me that the society has created a culture of lazy jw parenting.. rather than parents being there to guide and direct and help their children through all stages of life, the gb / society has become the "go-too" for everything.. if the child has an issue, there is a wt article for that.. does the child need help with something else?

ah, there is a caleb and sophia cartoon for that.. what about that other topic?

ah, there is a book for that.. so rather than being present parents, the average jw parent simply outsources their parenting to the organization!

Sail Away

SummerAngel
Add to that home schooling equals no education. No school clubs or hobbies to encourage no outtings to help them learn any spare time get knocking doors

No logical fallacies here.

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EMDR Therapy Anyone?

by Brian J in

two+ months into marital counseling for my wife (pimi) and i (pimo).

wife after decades of marriage decides for the first time to bring up separation due to, drum-roll please...... absolute endangerment of spiritual life.

a spouse may constantly try to make it impossible for the mate to pursue true worship or may even try to force that mate to break god’s commands in some way.

Sail Away

Brian J, I'm so sorry your wife is using this flimsy excuse to break up your marriage.

To answer your question, I tried EMDR for three sessions, and the therapist decided she couldn't help me, because I didn't feel safe in my own body. She recommended another therapy. What would you like to know?

My question for you is why is the therapist recommending EMDR for you? This therapy is used to work with trauma. You didn't mention that in your post.

Diane

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2018 Regional Convention program available on JW.borg

by sir82 in

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https://www.jw.org/en/publications/books/convention-program-2018/.

friday.

be courageous and very strong”—joshua 1:7

Sail Away

Let me summarize the whole convention in a single sentence for you:
If you don't do all the nonsense we command you, you are a COWARD! --paradise seeker

If you don't do all the nonsense we command you, you are a COWARD, and you're going to die!

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A Question of Adultery

by snugglebunny in

question: if a jw married lady is accused of adultery and a judicial committee is formed to investigate the matter, is the lady's jw husband also invited to attend as the possibly injured party?.

Sail Away

I knew of one case. The husband was not invited to the JC, but the elders insisted the wife call her husband in their presence on the telephone. She refused and was DF'd. She told him that night, so the committee recinded the decision, and she was privately reproved. She told me this herself many years later. She still felt trapped in her marriage to a verbally abusive man.

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Solicitors Appontment Tomorrow - Advice Appreciated

by pale.emperor in

following up on this thread: https://www.jehovahs-witness.com/topic/5012900121935872/am-overreacting-here?page=3#!#5179106934128640.

im seeing my solicitor tomorrow to see about getting an order in place making sure any contact my daughter has with my jw family goes through me and not my ex-wife.. explained the situation briefly to the lawyer, she was asking more and more about why should i be concerned if a jw had access to my child.. i mentioned the blood issue, the shunning, the inappropriate pictures of armageddon in books/mags etc.

do you think i should bring in watchtower literature to show them what i mean?

Sail Away

By all means, document everything! In my experience, professionals have a hard time wrapping their brains around this level of crazy, but once they see it in writing or even in a video, they are better prepared to assist you.

Wishing you the best,

Diane

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Am I Overreacting Here?

by pale.emperor in

let's call him "dave".. dave: hello?.

dave: we dont have to tell you how she is.

dave: <her mother> has custody.

Sail Away

pale.emperor, you are so not overreacting. You have the right to know where your daughter is, who she is with and that she is safe at all times. I am thinking of both physical and emotional safety. Take this up with your ex. There need to be boundaries set around efforts to indoctrinate and alienate your daughter. These people are toxic.